We all have our struggle! A series of unfortunate events and thriving hard to survive them is how we describe life nowadays. Busy in getting our gigs done and devoting our lives to a single cause, that is where we tend to forget is that life is the name of breathing, and living every moment to its fullest. It is a worthwhile experience, not a frame of time in which we contain ourselves like a little chirping bird inside the wooden cage. 

Running televisions in our lounges and constant buzzing phones in our hands keep us distracted in this happening world and we all become a part of this change. However, as the time passes, we all come to realize that if we wont stop to appreciate what we have and cherish it for a while, it would slip down our fingers like the sand in an hour glass. 

The tea cup on the kitchen counter is still hot and the tiny swirls of heat that dance upon the surface, against the sunlight peeping in from the window, I can feel the warmth of my husband. I can still hear his laughter roaring in the empty kitchen and his vision holding the same tea cup and thanking me for making a wrap for him because we ran out of bread in the morning. The memory belongs to him in this very moment. However, as the day would pass the memory would vanish and I would no longer remember it as the cup would be washed out and stand still and cold in the dishes rack. 

Back in the days when we all were once cherishing our childhood, remember how all of the siblings used to gather inside the living room dancing and prancing around our parents like the little chickens around their mother and how hard we tried just to put a smile on our parents’ face. I still remember the cozy drawing room with a crackling fireplace where all of us used to gather and make memories, the time when we all had time for each other. The days where we actually wanted to be with each other and yearned for the genuine warmth. 

I went to my university the other day and whilst I sat down on the same table in the hallway where I spent 4 years of my life, I barely felt any connection with the place because that was the moment of realization. That was the instant where I actually realized that it is not the place or a thing that we cherish but the person who is associated with them. The table where I was filling my clearance form alone, was the same table where I used to sit and wait for my bestfriend in the morning, do projects and assignments with our classfellows, eat lunch in the noon while skipping classes and sharing lots of secrets and laughter in our free time. The fact that I could not see the same faces in the same ambiance made me feel unsettled because that place no longer belongs to us, rather, now is the time for new people to make memories there. In that very moment, I wished for the time to rewind back to that summer afternoon where we all were so happy, and together back in our days and when this place belonged to us. 

Lost inside the capsule of our struggle, we forget that the people around us are the real push why we are moving forward. Parents are struggling so that their kids could have a better, brighter future, husbands are struggling so that they could get the whole world for their wives and the wives are struggling to start a new family, but what if the people we are struggling for disappear one day? A day would come when one or both parents would disappear in the photoframes and polaroids, when our partner would leave us lost and lonely, when the children would step out of their parents’ homes to start their new family. Would the struggle be same then? The home we long to return back to at the end of the day, would it be same without the people that live in it? As a matter of fact, it is the choice of genuine over temporary. We are lost amid the fancy facade of temporary people that blinds us to an extent that we are unable to see the warm, golden halo of the people that we actually need to keep in our lives.

People inhabit us like a blooming garden and they are also capable of leaving us like an ancient abandoned library that is full of magical words waiting to be rediscovered. People come and leave, one person might be our whole world in a moment and in the other moment he would be gone and that is when we think that we are on the brink of downfall and the world is collapsing, yet again we find someone who makes us believe in ourselves once again. That is where the struggle starts again, the struggle to keep that person in your life for as long as you can.

Focus on who you are with, rather than what you are doing because most of the times, amid what we are doing, we lose the people who we started our journey with. Inhabit your life with people and not struggles because the struggle is eternal but the genuine souls scattered around will fade away with time. In the end we could say that life actually is not a struggle for things, but a struggle for people. Make yourself vulnerable to time and memories, cherish the company that you have and you would see how every moment would become a walk to remember, because it is only if you stop and look for a while that the life would give you an opportunity to love what you have and keep it safe in your heart, forever.

Life surprises you, doesn’t it? A moment ago you were thinking about something and now you want something legit pole opposite. A beautiful semblance of experiences and memories, life is all about changing preferences and evolving priorities and this is totally fine.

A month ago, the only mission of this girl was to avail a foreign scholarship and fly past the globe to wander in the wet evening streets of Edinburgh and write poems about how ethereal that place is. However, here I am, sitting beside my whining husband who is struggling to sleep right now because of his headache. As I look at him at the moment, I hardly believe that he ever existed anywhere in my WHOLE universe before. This feeling is where I realised that giving up on certain things doesn’t mean that you’re off track or that you lost your chance, however, changes are always beautiful if cherished in the right way.

There are a million moments when I reflect back on how my life has changed after marriage and the only answer that rings the bells is an evolution of priorities. A lot of people and things that meant so much to me once have stepped down a bit and my new home and its inhabitants have become my prime focus. It doesn’t mean that my sisters, family and friends mean any less to me, however we can put it this way that the first thing on my mind as I wake up is to get my husband to go to office, make him a fancy-schmancy breakfast which unfortunately I can’t because he is on diet and call my mom later after.

As anxious and depressed as people get after losing something for another thing, I find it equally ecstatic because why not? The mighty mechanism of time removed something or someone from your life to replace it with the better and we all do, at some point realise that whatever changes came into our lives earlier were the master plan and if it wasn’t for that one change, you wouldn’t have been here. There is no use being afraid of the changes that life throws at you, rather embrace them learn, evolve, and grow because life demands an evolution with every passionate moment, doesn’t it? A moment ago you were thinking about making something different to eat but right now, you’re a complete sleepyhead who wants to sleep and nothing else.

Writer’s block was one other thing that I was facing throughout this time and it kind of sucked. I did panic at the start since writing was a major habit and not being able to do something that actually inspires you to live a healthy and positive life could be really bothersome. To be honest, I completely let it be and just waited for the right moment to guide my inner voice and here I am. Life eventually comes back to its zero point which is commonly known as our normal routine but it takes time. Meanwhile what we can do is to give some space to ourselves and let things simmer slowly and gradually.

Things can go completely offbeat and that’s okay because life isn’t about settling, rather it is a continuous transition. Those who learn to dance to the rhythm of this transition will fade into the realm of prosperity, however, those who resist and don’t change themselves according to the new requirements are left behind in the darkest pits of loneliness and destitution.

Hello beautiful souls,

I hope you all are as charming as always and cherishing your life to bits 🙂 I am here with a new article that I’ve been wondering to write on for the past two days. This is about how you can surround yourself with positive vibes all the time without being bored, lazy and depressed. So without any further delay, let’s dive into the blog <3

1. Keep your space clean:

Be it your room, personal study, working space, or research cubicle, make sure you keep your space neat, clean, and organized.

A study led by associate professor Nicole R. Keith, Ph.D., research scientist and professor at Indiana University, found that people with clean houses are healthier than people with messy houses. Keith and her colleagues tracked the physical health of 998 African Americans between the ages of 49 and 65, a demographic known to be at an increased risk for heart disease. Participants who kept their homes clean were healthier and more active than those who didn’t. In fact, house cleanliness was even more of a predictor for physical health than neighborhood walkability.

A 2010 study published in the scientific journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin used linguistic analysis software to measure the way 60 individuals discussed their homes. Women who described their living spaces as “cluttered” or full of “unfinished projects” were more likely to be depressed and fatigued than women who described their homes as “restful” and “restorative.” The researchers also found that women with cluttered homes expressed higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol.

In 2011, researchers at Princeton University found that clutter can actually make it more difficult to focus on a particular task. Specifically, they found that the visual cortex can be overwhelmed by task-irrelevant objects, making it harder to allocate attention and complete tasks efficiently.

A survey conducted by the National Sleep Foundation found that people who make their beds every morning are 19 percent more likely to report regularly getting a good night’s sleep. People who were surveyed also reported benefits from having clean sheets — specifically, 75 percent of people said they get a better night’s rest when their sheets are freshly cleaned because they feel more comfortable. (Psychology Today, 2016)

 2. Organize Yourself:

Organizing yourself is the easiest thing in this world to do right now. In this modern era of technology where people are becoming quite organized and sensible day by day, it is very easy to get planners, and organizers from different websites and online stores. Planners give you a next-level sense of responsibility and future planning.

From to-dos to the grocery list, from tasks to homework, from house chores to paying bills, from class schedules to birthday reminders, everything can be penned-down in a single notebook that you can proudly call as your planner. I decorated a beautiful planner in last winter vacations and am using it successfully since then. I also implemented several creative ideas like my yearly transformation to track down my fashion sense and photography skills enhancement. I will stick a fresh picture ate the end of every month below the respective month name. Also, I created a birthday tracker of my friends and family that helped me in reminding the birthdays of my friends which I always forget otherwise, thus earning much disappointment.

3. Time for a Change:

I don’t know about others, but a lot of Asians seems to have this particular habit of keeping the old things for years while purchasing new things simultaneously. It is totally understandable that some things are very dear to us and we cherish them forever, but we shall keep this in mind that:

A change is always beautiful!

Have an old rose-flower pot on your study for two years? Time to replace it with new crystal crockery with fresh lilies instead. Have a vintage wallpaper in your room for too long? Why not try a summer color this time? Have a cute cactus by your bedside? Let’s bring a sunflower pot in its place this season. Been sipping on this bright red mug all winters? The whole supermarket is filled with beautiful new mugs in pastel colors that you are absolutely going to love. Replacing old things with new ones always help to rejuvenate your mind and keeping your soul alive. Whereas, decluttering the old stuff is important to avoid mess and useless cluttering. It is true that old is gold, but a fresh change always motivates us to do something beautiful and unique. A change always helps us in making miracles happen. 

4. Green heals the soul:

Color psychology suggests that different colors can evoke psychological reactions. For example, color is often thought to have an impact on moods and emotions. Sometimes these reactions are related to the intensity of a color, while in other cases they are the product of experience and cultural influences.

How does the color green make you feel? For many people, it has strong associations with nature and immediately brings to mind the lush green of grass, trees, and forests. Perhaps because green is so heavily associated with nature, it is often described as a refreshing and tranquil color.

“Green, which is Nature’s colour, is restful, soothing, cheerful, and health-giving.”          – Paul Brunton

According to color psychology, green is a color of balance and harmony which is very important to keep your mind and thoughts intact while living. The green color is reported to give you a sense of fresh start and a punch of positive thoughts and ideas every morning. To inculcate green in your environment, you can go from minimal to grandeur. From keeping a cactus on your bedside to raising a palm tree in your garden, from hanging a spider plant in your window to growing a dragon tree in your living room, you can surround yourself with the greens, and ultimately attracting the positive aura.

Green is a color that can evoke powerful emotions. It is a dominant color in nature that makes you think of growth. Think of nature and see the incredible variety of shades of green expressing renewal and life. Green evokes a feeling of abundance and is associated with refreshment and peace, rest and security.  Green helps people feel rested and secure. People are invited to wait in the “green room” before going on camera to relax. Many doctors even use green in their offices to put patients at ease. Green encourages a balance in your brain that leads to decisiveness. However, green may also be perceived negatively when associated with materialism, envy, and possessiveness (Christi Wharton, 2019). 

5. Do not argue about un-knowledgeable things:

It is the most common behavior of us humans that we have to participate in almost everything even if we are unacquainted by the context and background knowledge. I have learned this thing from my personal experience actually!

A lot of the times, if some controversy breaks out, we all become the scholars and start judging or defending a certain party without knowing the whole story, and without analyzing both sides. This behavior is spreading 99% of the negativity in this world today. What actually happens is that when we start a social media fight without complete knowledge, and somebody else (who is acknowledged and learned) confronts us, we, unable to defend our claim start being intolerant by bad-mouthing, hating and criticizing the character of the other person. Such a situation creates a very destructive atmosphere where we learn nothing but extremism, intolerance and destructive criticism. Also, as a piece of advice, stay away from politics if you want your mind to work without any bounds and bias. Live as an individual and give your stance likewise without being under any impact and influence.

6. Witness Maximum Positivity:

What if you decorate your bedroom’s wall with all the bloodshed and warfare images from the time of Hitler? How would you feel whenever you’d look at those pictures throughout the day and the night? On the other hand, if you put up vibrant frames displaying positive quotations, rainbow and sunshine depiction, plants and unicorn portrayals, you would feel completely different than the earlier scenario.

Being a student, I own four notebooks, a bag, planner, laptop, phone, USB, wallet, makeup bag, pencil pouch and a collection of different pens and markers. To witness the maximum positivity, I decorate my notebooks myself in the vacations or the semester break with all of my favorite morale-boosting quotations.

Moreover, I have made a bunch of photo frames and wall-hangings displaying my own happy-drawings and positive-paintings. You can also implement this witness-maximum-positivity phenomenon in your life and trust me you will feel an emergence of positive aura inside yourself. I made multiple bookmarks to help myself in not-giving-up on a book and to carry on with a punch of colorful motivation. My planner also has this new-year-resolution front page that reminds me of what I have achieved so far and what is already left, what do I need to improve and how better can I get? Being a free-lancer, I have selected a minimal laptop wallpaper that says “Create” and trust me the wallpaper alone helps me with writing new things and creating new ideas when I am feeling bland. I also decorated one of my notebooks with my favorite J.K. Rowling’s quote that says:

“It is important to remember that we all have magic inside us!”

This quote helps me in my mood swings throughout the lectures, it boosts my morale when I score lesser than expected in any exam, and cheers me up when I achieve something great! Below is a collection of my personal contribution to make my life witness more positivity throughout the day. 🙂

I hope this article would help most of you guys. Happy Blogging! 🙂

Adios,

xoxo.

Did you ever feel contented and relaxed after de-cluttering your room and changing its setting in a specific way? Do you feel the difference between the atmosphere and your mood in different rooms of your home?

Today we are going to discover why. The ancient Chinese technique for Feng Shui encourages us to adjust our homes and make more joyful, more effective lives, room by room. We frequently direct our concentration toward the room, the asylum where we can rest and energize. Having the best possible Feng Shui in the room can help your sentimental life and additionally your capacity to rest and to feel in charge. You need to know how to keep the chi streaming, and how to divert any negative vitality that may go into your room – and your life. In the event that you need to know how to Feng Shui your room, let’s start 🙂

1. Get a bed with hard headboard:

As per feng shui standards, Cho suggests picking a tough headboard, ideally a wooden one, without any bars or openings on it. “The headboard keeps you associated with your partner and settles you in bed. Not having a headboard influences your relationship to feel more temporary,” Cho says. Also, in case you’re single, a solid headboard can help pull in a solid and secure relationship, defenders accept.

2. Get a full or queen size bed:

Recollect your twin bed or futon in school. Would regardless you need to rest in it? We didn’t think so. Cho says getting a full or ruler measure bed is perfect for feng shui on the grounds that it encourages a peaceful night of rest and gives chi a chance to circle legitimately underneath it. It likewise makes a feeling of fellowship amongst you and your partner. By examination, twin beds can feel choked and ephemeral, while extra large beds can be excessively open, making it impossible to advance closeness. In addition, going larger than usual regularly implies split box springs under the sleeping cushion, which can make disharmony, also cause issues with your back, Cho says.

3. Keep underneath your bed mess-free:

You probably won’t understand it, however, the vitality from the things you store underneath your bed can exchange to you, Cho says. That is the reason feng shui specialists exhort getting out the clutter so that the vitality can circulate around you while you’re resting. “On the off chance that those things have or speak to dynamic vitality, similar to shoes, books or an activity tangle, you can assimilate it on an intuitive level.” If you totally need to store things there, Cho prescribes constraining them to delicate things, similar to bed sheets, materials, and cushions.

4. Appreciate mirror arrangement:

Diverse schools of feng shui have restricting perspectives on mirrors in the room, however, Cho says having round or oval mirrors really symbolize progression in a relationship and assists with the stream of chi in the room. Numerous feng shui specialists prompt against having a mirror straightforwardly before your bed since it might cause treachery in a relationship, and it may likewise be bumping to see your appearance on the off chance that you wake up amidst the night. Rather, you can position a full-length reflect far from your bed, with the goal that you can see an impression of the entryway and who are entering. Or then again, stash that mirror within your storage room entryway.

5. Adorn with relaxing hues:

Earth tones, for example, blue, green and darker, are best for the room, Cho says. What’s more, this is upheld by the National Sleep Foundation, as well. At the point when your ganglion cells — the receptors in the retina of your eyes — get the shading blue, your circulatory strain and heart rate back off, which help set you up for rest.

“These hues enable you to relax and are calming to the eyes. Dynamic hues like red and brilliant pink can empower you excessively,” Cho says. On the off chance that you like those shades have a go at including contacts of peach, coral, burgundy or purple in your sheets, cushions or drapes (as opposed to sprinkled over each of the four dividers).

6. Avoid too many electronics in your room:

You got it. Gadgets, similar to a TV, workstation, and cell phone are a room no-no in light of the fact that they can delay — or disturb — rest. On the off chance that you utilize your telephone as your wake up timer, keep it five to 10 feet from your bed so you need to get up to stop it. Along these lines, you’re additionally not enticed for a late-night look on Instagram or Facebook. Blameworthy? “Before you think about purchasing a repetitive sound, I would attempt to expel the same number of hardware from your room,” Cho says. As per Cho and other feng shui specialists, hardware discharge electromagnetic vitality, regardless of whether they’re not being utilized, so it’s best to keep them out of the room. You may likewise need to have a go at streaming to these yoga postures to help set up your body for bed.

7. Rejuvenate your space with plants and incense oils:

While diverse schools of feng shui don’t generally concede to having plants in the room, Cho accepts they’re extraordinary for rest. “Snake plants assimilate carbon dioxide and discharge oxygen around evening time. I additionally like brilliant fathers and orchids,” Cho says. The green shade of plants can be alleviating to the eyes and help place you in a decent inclination.

What’s more, when you get up toward the beginning of the day, seeing a lively plant can help invigorate you, she includes. You can likewise take a stab at playing up your feeling of smell. Some of the time, a fragrance is all you have to move vitality in a room from focused and tension-ridden to quiet and gathered. A 2012 survey led by the National Sleep Foundation found that individuals are more eager to go to bed on sheets with a crisp aroma. That is the reason Cho and numerous other feng shui specialists additionally prescribe getting a diffuser with fundamental oils. “Orange and lavender oils are incredible for relaxation and sound sleep,” Cho says.

8. Have dim lighting:

For the best Feng Shui, you ought to stay away from brilliant, flashy lights, or roof lights over your bed. Rather, have work area lights with delicate light, and endeavor to get as much characteristic light as you can from the window. This will influence you to feel more tranquil and quiet than cruel lights that are too splendid. You can easily get fairy lights at a cheaper rate to let the magic happen 🙂

9. Avoid photos of relatives or friends “watching you.“

You can have a few key family photos in your bedroom, but avoid a clutter of photos of people everywhere, or you will feel like you’re being watched and will get overwhelmed. The same goes for religious figures. Instead, use inspiring art for rejuvenation.

Be aware of the position of the windows:

 If you can, try to avoid placing your bed between the window and a door, or you’ll be in the middle of the “draught” of chi running between these two places. If you can’t avoid it, just make sure you have nice, pleasant curtains to block some of the bad energy. You should also avoid sleeping facing the window if you can, or your sleep won’t be as restful.

Cited source: www.wikihow.com/Feng-Shui-Your-Bedroom.

Heya! You all are the potpourri of my website who makes all of my posts fragrant with their comments 🙂 Do try these ideas whenever you feel like depression, anxiety, lack of concentration, insomnia, dullness, and discomfort as they really work! 

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