And in between justifications and misconceptions, I stopped explaining myself to the people.

by Zarbakht Bilal November 18, 2018

Hello my sugar cakes and cream pies 🙂 I hope you’re having a wonderful winter this year <3

Well, this is to tell you all that if you ever get stuck in a situation where the other person is not willing to understand your point, just leave it! Let it go without trying to prove yourself right. Because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind! Just stay put and love the people who are genuinely sincere with you and stop explaining yourself to the people who come up with this intention to let you down. Clarifying and justifying yourself to them is like throwing stones into the stagnant water. Nothing can move it, none of your argument or clarification can help you in changing their ill attitude towards you. They won’t ever listen and understand your point of view. It’s totally fine to LET IT GO! LET THOSE PEOPLE TALK BAD BEHIND YOU BECAUSE IT DOESNT MATTER IF YOU JUSTIFY YOURSELF OR NOT, THEY ARE GONNA TALK BAD BEHIND YOU BECAUSE THEY ARE IN A HABIT OF CREATING DRAMA TO GET THEIR LIFE GOING. 🙂

Adios xx

62 comments

Basmah Nasir November 18, 2018 at 5:02 pm

True well said ❤

Zarbakht Bilal November 18, 2018 at 5:30 pm

Awwwh! Your comments are the MUST-TO-HAVE for my blogs Basma 🙂 My bae, best bae <3

Nirant Gurav November 18, 2018 at 6:21 pm

True that !!

Zarbakht Bilal November 19, 2018 at 7:13 pm

Thankyou my honey suckle <3

Nirant Gurav November 20, 2018 at 2:24 am

🙈From where dis cute names comes from ??

Zarbakht Bilal November 20, 2018 at 4:01 am

The cute dictionary in my heart 💓

Nirant Gurav November 20, 2018 at 4:59 am

Awwwwww !! Dat melt my heart

Zarbakht Bilal November 20, 2018 at 6:34 pm

Hahahhahaha! Why so cute? 😀

Nirant Gurav November 21, 2018 at 2:15 am

Just following ur shadow 😛

Zarbakht Bilal November 21, 2018 at 2:27 pm

Bass krdo cutie, Bollywood follow kr rahay ho filhaal tum 😀

Nirant Gurav November 22, 2018 at 4:42 am

Hehehehehe 😁😁 sahi pakdee jii

RichAshish November 18, 2018 at 6:35 pm

Thts what known as Narcissistic attitude where person in front don’t wanna listen things against them..

Zarbakht Bilal November 19, 2018 at 7:12 pm

Narcissism is becoming a very common trait among people nowadays, sadly! :/

RichAshish November 20, 2018 at 10:04 am

Seems like you had a bad/sad experience with someone recently?

Zarbakht Bilal November 20, 2018 at 6:26 pm

Oh well, you guessed it right. It was a friend of mine whom I shared some secrets and warned him about a person you know as girls usually do to avoid any kind of future trouble but she spilled the beans and leaked all the girl talk infront of that guy that caused a lot of trouble for me. But, I am used to such university drama from like 3 years 😀 I could have thrown her into a big trouble but I forgive her now despite the fact that I will never be there for her ever again 🙂

RichAshish November 20, 2018 at 6:38 pm

Yaaa!!! Actually am good at observing people…..
But this is actually hard to understand why girls do betray their freinds just to get Attention O something like that..Thats actually biggest weakness still exist in female part..

Zarbakht Bilal November 20, 2018 at 6:45 pm

Yes you are 100% right. Girls try to degrade other girls just to look cool infront of guys. 🙂

RichAshish November 20, 2018 at 7:38 pm

Not only girls.. Guys also do such silly stupid things just to get girls Attention…Gender Equality you know😂😂😂

Zarbakht Bilal November 20, 2018 at 8:40 pm

Haha, I know! I have been to 3 different universities and I am quite familiar with girls and boys psychic 😀

RichAshish November 21, 2018 at 4:48 am

3 differ Universities? Is that you switching courses o not even satisfied with education curriculum?

Zarbakht Bilal November 21, 2018 at 2:23 pm

I was doing Electrical Engineering earlier but then I found out that the studies werent pleasing me. I was just roting the things and ratta system tha sara you can say like mera interest nai tha so I used to stick to ratta 😀 English and other arts subjects men A+ grade hota tha jab k baakion men itna acha nai hota tha so then I discovered k my superpowers reside in writing and arts 🙂 So I left Engineering and got admission in English Literature.

RichAshish November 21, 2018 at 7:15 pm

I saw you mentioned your snapchat code here on WordPress..I send you request over it.so that I can contact you when I need any advice from you..😊

Zarbakht Bilal December 8, 2018 at 6:39 pm

Oh yeah! Actually, I deactivated my account for the exams plus Snapchat drains your battery faster 🙁

RichAshish December 10, 2018 at 7:46 pm

Haha…Can understand…Just saw your recent post, Happy belated Birthday Dear. (wishing you here just to avoid crowd..😉) Keep smiling and loving always.

Zarbakht Bilal December 11, 2018 at 6:24 pm

Awwww 🙂 Thankyou so much for all the love and support honey bunch 🙂

RichAshish December 12, 2018 at 5:06 pm

Do you agree with the fact “Being in love sometimes require religious conversions?” just asking your views regarding this inter-religion relationship stuff.

Zarbakht Bilal December 12, 2018 at 8:04 pm

Some people dont bother the conversion thingy while for some, it is mandatory. My grandfather married a Jew nurse in England and she converted into a Muslim then they got married and she is the best practicing women of Islam; even better than us 🙂 Then there is a cousin of mine, who married a Christian girl in France. His wife is not a Muslim, she is still Christian. In Islam, men can marry the Jews and Christians because they are also the nations who believe in the same God as we Muslims do; Allah. So they can marry them but our women can also marry people from other religions but they should be converted into Muslims first because ya know, the family tree emerges from a male; your father. Then the granddaughter of the same grandfather who married a Jew married a Qaadiani (a tribe who claims to be Muslims but in actual theyre not) so they disowned her. So yes, there is a possibility of marriage with the nations who believe in Allah. Otherwise, the person should convert to Muslim for the marriage to happen. 🙂 This is what happens actually.

RichAshish December 13, 2018 at 4:56 pm

Don’t you think this kind of one-sided? Being in a relationship o madly in love with someone(especially in the case when religion and caste differs) required o pushed one person to embrace the religion of dominating person. Cant, they live naturally carrying manners And idols they following throughout this whole life..

Zarbakht Bilal December 15, 2018 at 9:53 am

Every religion has its own beliefs and traditions honey and I dont know what’s right and what’s wrong, like you know na its a kind of sensitive topic so I dont know what to say. But love is all about trust, care and compromises. Maybe if a person sacrifices his or her religion for one person, his partner gives him all the rest of the happiness he couldnt even think of? Love is like a magic and we all have a different story. People are marrying people from other religions nowadays and theyre free to do that, like its their life we are no one to say anything. Look at Nick and Priyanka! Aren’t they beautiful 😍 🙂 I loved how maturely you reacted to my comment otherwise if it would be someone else, he would have straightforwardly called the religions wrong 🙂 That’s like a true gentleman! Keep this positive and gentle behaviour for life ❤️

RichAshish December 15, 2018 at 10:49 am

Thnx for your kind Appreciation.I genuinely respect your thoughts and ideas about this inter Religion marriages.Atleast you understand this big sensitive topic where religion is involved without being biased and Ignorant.

Zarbakht Bilal December 17, 2018 at 1:36 pm

Exactly! See there is nothing to be negative about, I respect every religion and every lover 😊

RichAshish December 17, 2018 at 2:19 pm

Haha..i already know this in your case..there is no need to mention this as I can smell people through my senses

Zarbakht Bilal December 17, 2018 at 2:22 pm

Ahahahhh that makes you a real gentleman and my best friend on WordPress 🙂 Keep slaying honey! 😇

RichAshish December 17, 2018 at 2:28 pm

Ohk if you actually consider me like this( freindzoned thing I hate specially in case of beautiful girls like you😋😋😋😉😉😉).But jokes apart, you are one of finest and pure girl with great sense of humour till date…

Zarbakht Bilal December 17, 2018 at 2:31 pm

Oh no, no 👀 Also, being friends is nice! Which zone would you like then? Bro zone? 😝😝

RichAshish December 17, 2018 at 2:43 pm

#hahaha…no problem am more cool with this bro thing than freindzoned thing..wordzone is much better for people like us I guess.

Zarbakht Bilal December 17, 2018 at 8:54 pm

Wow! 😋 That’s ummmm… rare, and unique! 👍

RichAshish December 18, 2018 at 1:53 pm

Haha….this really going to help you in future I say.

Zarbakht Bilal December 18, 2018 at 3:32 pm

I wish a beautiful future for both of us 😊

RichAshish December 19, 2018 at 7:26 am

Haha..I wish you will have a lot of beautiful children in future..😂😂☺

Zarbakht Bilal December 19, 2018 at 4:19 pm

Hahaha, sometime I am that bacha aik hi acha kinda person, while the other time I am like I’ll love to have 7 kids 😍

RichAshish December 19, 2018 at 4:26 pm

Haha..am still 25-year-old kid..bit immature and childish who started crying when I don’t get what I want..So basically I need Jadoo who can improve my mental health..lol😂😂

Zarbakht Bilal December 19, 2018 at 7:18 pm

Hahahhahaha awww! 😁 that’s quite cute tbh. Well then wait for a spaceship 🤣

RichAshish December 20, 2018 at 5:35 am

Hahaha….

Zarbakht Bilal December 15, 2018 at 10:06 am

Oh yes, one more thing, see if you have a different religion and your partner has some other religion lets suppose She is a Muslim and you are a Christian, Itd be okay for you to drink alcohol, go out with other girls, hug them, shake hands with them, itd be a normal thing for you to make your wife dressed up like an eye candy to boast infront of others, but it might be very painful for her. And ultimately aesi choti choti baaten mill k bohat bari baaten ban jaati hain and the lovers start hating each other thus separating from each other. Same religions men we have same beliefs, same Gods, same traditions, same events and festivals, same prayers, same ideologies, same dreams and same families. So overall, the chances of partition minimises very much. Look at Shahrukh and Gauri, Shahrukh is no more a practicing Muslim, he drinks, he doesnt pray, he have intimacy with other women, while these things are considered haram in our religion. Look at Zayn Malik, he finally gave up Islam because he had relations with foreign women, he had tatoos all over his body and he wasnt a practicing Muslim so finally he gave up. So either a person give up on his or her religion or he has to leave his partner. Aik na aik cheez toh hoti hi hai. Family difference bhi bohat zyada aajata hai na asal men toh uski wajah se bhi issues aajatay hain. And yes, if youre madly in love with that person, keep this in mind that many love marriages fail in this world. So love is not a permanent feeling, at one time its at its peak, the other time you get used to your partner, after that your decline can easily be started by tiny things. For example we have a different concept of divorce, christians and other religions have a different one so these things do matter. In Islam, you have to say Talaq three times in order to give divorce while in other religions you sign the divorce deed. So there are many differences and you can’t be very comfortable in every aspect of life of your religions are different and if you really are a practicing person. For Example, if I am a very practicing Muslim and I marry a Christian person, he would always say, all praise for Jesus that he gave us this this this, while Ill always say, Thanks to Allah for everything! So itd be a bit funny and awkward for both the practicing partners😂

RichAshish December 15, 2018 at 11:01 am

To b honest, as basically me From Hindu Brahman family By birth but honestly kind of Agnostic atheist. As far as my case, I don’t believe in religious conversations at all(literally hate it) just because it actually makes us change our identity with what we actually born with. Our inheritance from our parents, ideology, thoughts and beliefs and especially behaviour just kind of running in our blood, so it’s can’t b changed in reality. Converting to another religion is just like pretending to b someone else just for sake of comfort in your partner’s Eyes( Mostly Women needs to face t this religious Hypocrisy

Zarbakht Bilal December 17, 2018 at 1:35 pm

Yeah you’re right!

Zarbakht Bilal December 15, 2018 at 10:07 am

This is what I believe, it might be wrong 🙂 What do you say about it?

RichAshish December 15, 2018 at 11:13 am

Love is not about religious conversions..if someone really loves o admire you, they will accept you the way you are.(with all your pros and cons). Religion and Love both are different aspects of living and important though, but intermixing them just for sake of comfort not gonna give you inner peace and happiness. True love is spontaneous, it can happen anywhere, with anyone without expectations and denials, just like Bloody Urge to b with someone blindly. (which is very rare nowadays)

Zarbakht Bilal December 17, 2018 at 1:34 pm

Hahahaha I know what true love is sweetie 😊 And yeah you’re right both of them are separate genres 😇

Chiru November 19, 2018 at 9:13 am

So true… ” It’s totally fine to let it go” I needed this much at this time..

Zarbakht Bilal November 19, 2018 at 6:57 pm

Awwww 🙂 I am so glad I helped you in any way. I faced a situation recently and this is the lesson that I learned. So I thought about sharing it with you guys as it is the most common trouble nowadays; A social dilemma of FAKE PEOPLE! 😀

Chiru November 20, 2018 at 7:16 am

Yes the lesson.. Glad you get to know who the fake ppl are…
I too had faced in recent times where I realized enemies stand in front face to face, but the one whom we treat as closed ones backstabbing…. that hurts..

Zarbakht Bilal November 20, 2018 at 6:28 pm

Haha, to be honest, foes are better than fake people. Isnt that so? 😀

Chiru November 21, 2018 at 9:16 am

That’s 100% true in most cases I have ever faced in my life..

Zarbakht Bilal November 21, 2018 at 2:18 pm

Haha, take care and try to stay away from people as much as you can and cling to your family and beloveds because at the end ham har jagah se ganday ho kar unhi k paas jaatay hain aur woh hamen hamesha ki tarha galay laga lete hain. 🙂

Chiru November 21, 2018 at 5:02 pm

Haan at last mom dad aur closed ones k alava koi bi trustworthy nahi miltha…
sahi kaha jithna bi bure name wo hamesha usi tharah pyaar dethe hain jo varsho se diye ja rahe hain..

Zarbakht Bilal December 8, 2018 at 6:40 pm

Awww, that’s so sweet and true 🙂

Josh Gross | The Jaguar November 19, 2018 at 4:14 pm

Well said, Zarbakht! There’s a difference between helpful, constructive criticism and needless drama. The former comes from a place of love, whereas the latter is simply meant to cut other down.

Zarbakht Bilal November 19, 2018 at 6:55 pm

Exactly! We sometimes go far beyond our limits and values to please and to clarify ourselves infront of others and thats totally wrong. We should explain ourselves infront of the people who are genuine with us and no infront of the persons who are just there to complicate the situation and to create aneverending drama 😀 Cheers Hon! 🙂

Josh Gross | The Jaguar November 20, 2018 at 2:19 am

Very well said 🙂

Zarbakht Bilal November 20, 2018 at 4:01 am

Thankyou Mr. Josh 😇

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