Hello beautiful souls,

I hope you all are as charming as always and cherishing your life to bits 🙂 I am here with a new article that I’ve been wondering to write on for the past two days. This is about how you can surround yourself with positive vibes all the time without being bored, lazy and depressed. So without any further delay, let’s dive into the blog <3

1. Keep your space clean:

Be it your room, personal study, working space, or research cubicle, make sure you keep your space neat, clean, and organized.

A study led by associate professor Nicole R. Keith, Ph.D., research scientist and professor at Indiana University, found that people with clean houses are healthier than people with messy houses. Keith and her colleagues tracked the physical health of 998 African Americans between the ages of 49 and 65, a demographic known to be at an increased risk for heart disease. Participants who kept their homes clean were healthier and more active than those who didn’t. In fact, house cleanliness was even more of a predictor for physical health than neighborhood walkability.

A 2010 study published in the scientific journal Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin used linguistic analysis software to measure the way 60 individuals discussed their homes. Women who described their living spaces as “cluttered” or full of “unfinished projects” were more likely to be depressed and fatigued than women who described their homes as “restful” and “restorative.” The researchers also found that women with cluttered homes expressed higher levels of the stress hormone cortisol.

In 2011, researchers at Princeton University found that clutter can actually make it more difficult to focus on a particular task. Specifically, they found that the visual cortex can be overwhelmed by task-irrelevant objects, making it harder to allocate attention and complete tasks efficiently.

A survey conducted by the National Sleep Foundation found that people who make their beds every morning are 19 percent more likely to report regularly getting a good night’s sleep. People who were surveyed also reported benefits from having clean sheets — specifically, 75 percent of people said they get a better night’s rest when their sheets are freshly cleaned because they feel more comfortable. (Psychology Today, 2016)

 2. Organize Yourself:

Organizing yourself is the easiest thing in this world to do right now. In this modern era of technology where people are becoming quite organized and sensible day by day, it is very easy to get planners, and organizers from different websites and online stores. Planners give you a next-level sense of responsibility and future planning.

From to-dos to the grocery list, from tasks to homework, from house chores to paying bills, from class schedules to birthday reminders, everything can be penned-down in a single notebook that you can proudly call as your planner. I decorated a beautiful planner in last winter vacations and am using it successfully since then. I also implemented several creative ideas like my yearly transformation to track down my fashion sense and photography skills enhancement. I will stick a fresh picture ate the end of every month below the respective month name. Also, I created a birthday tracker of my friends and family that helped me in reminding the birthdays of my friends which I always forget otherwise, thus earning much disappointment.

3. Time for a Change:

I don’t know about others, but a lot of Asians seems to have this particular habit of keeping the old things for years while purchasing new things simultaneously. It is totally understandable that some things are very dear to us and we cherish them forever, but we shall keep this in mind that:

A change is always beautiful!

Have an old rose-flower pot on your study for two years? Time to replace it with new crystal crockery with fresh lilies instead. Have a vintage wallpaper in your room for too long? Why not try a summer color this time? Have a cute cactus by your bedside? Let’s bring a sunflower pot in its place this season. Been sipping on this bright red mug all winters? The whole supermarket is filled with beautiful new mugs in pastel colors that you are absolutely going to love. Replacing old things with new ones always help to rejuvenate your mind and keeping your soul alive. Whereas, decluttering the old stuff is important to avoid mess and useless cluttering. It is true that old is gold, but a fresh change always motivates us to do something beautiful and unique. A change always helps us in making miracles happen. 

4. Green heals the soul:

Color psychology suggests that different colors can evoke psychological reactions. For example, color is often thought to have an impact on moods and emotions. Sometimes these reactions are related to the intensity of a color, while in other cases they are the product of experience and cultural influences.

How does the color green make you feel? For many people, it has strong associations with nature and immediately brings to mind the lush green of grass, trees, and forests. Perhaps because green is so heavily associated with nature, it is often described as a refreshing and tranquil color.

“Green, which is Nature’s colour, is restful, soothing, cheerful, and health-giving.”          – Paul Brunton

According to color psychology, green is a color of balance and harmony which is very important to keep your mind and thoughts intact while living. The green color is reported to give you a sense of fresh start and a punch of positive thoughts and ideas every morning. To inculcate green in your environment, you can go from minimal to grandeur. From keeping a cactus on your bedside to raising a palm tree in your garden, from hanging a spider plant in your window to growing a dragon tree in your living room, you can surround yourself with the greens, and ultimately attracting the positive aura.

Green is a color that can evoke powerful emotions. It is a dominant color in nature that makes you think of growth. Think of nature and see the incredible variety of shades of green expressing renewal and life. Green evokes a feeling of abundance and is associated with refreshment and peace, rest and security.  Green helps people feel rested and secure. People are invited to wait in the “green room” before going on camera to relax. Many doctors even use green in their offices to put patients at ease. Green encourages a balance in your brain that leads to decisiveness. However, green may also be perceived negatively when associated with materialism, envy, and possessiveness (Christi Wharton, 2019). 

5. Do not argue about un-knowledgeable things:

It is the most common behavior of us humans that we have to participate in almost everything even if we are unacquainted by the context and background knowledge. I have learned this thing from my personal experience actually!

A lot of the times, if some controversy breaks out, we all become the scholars and start judging or defending a certain party without knowing the whole story, and without analyzing both sides. This behavior is spreading 99% of the negativity in this world today. What actually happens is that when we start a social media fight without complete knowledge, and somebody else (who is acknowledged and learned) confronts us, we, unable to defend our claim start being intolerant by bad-mouthing, hating and criticizing the character of the other person. Such a situation creates a very destructive atmosphere where we learn nothing but extremism, intolerance and destructive criticism. Also, as a piece of advice, stay away from politics if you want your mind to work without any bounds and bias. Live as an individual and give your stance likewise without being under any impact and influence.

6. Witness Maximum Positivity:

What if you decorate your bedroom’s wall with all the bloodshed and warfare images from the time of Hitler? How would you feel whenever you’d look at those pictures throughout the day and the night? On the other hand, if you put up vibrant frames displaying positive quotations, rainbow and sunshine depiction, plants and unicorn portrayals, you would feel completely different than the earlier scenario.

Being a student, I own four notebooks, a bag, planner, laptop, phone, USB, wallet, makeup bag, pencil pouch and a collection of different pens and markers. To witness the maximum positivity, I decorate my notebooks myself in the vacations or the semester break with all of my favorite morale-boosting quotations.

Moreover, I have made a bunch of photo frames and wall-hangings displaying my own happy-drawings and positive-paintings. You can also implement this witness-maximum-positivity phenomenon in your life and trust me you will feel an emergence of positive aura inside yourself. I made multiple bookmarks to help myself in not-giving-up on a book and to carry on with a punch of colorful motivation. My planner also has this new-year-resolution front page that reminds me of what I have achieved so far and what is already left, what do I need to improve and how better can I get? Being a free-lancer, I have selected a minimal laptop wallpaper that says “Create” and trust me the wallpaper alone helps me with writing new things and creating new ideas when I am feeling bland. I also decorated one of my notebooks with my favorite J.K. Rowling’s quote that says:

“It is important to remember that we all have magic inside us!”

This quote helps me in my mood swings throughout the lectures, it boosts my morale when I score lesser than expected in any exam, and cheers me up when I achieve something great! Below is a collection of my personal contribution to make my life witness more positivity throughout the day. 🙂

I hope this article would help most of you guys. Happy Blogging! 🙂

Adios,

xoxo.

Hello beautiful souls! I am almost drowned in the flood of final exams as they are at the head. Nonetheless, I waited too long to publish this blog just to acquaint you guys with the Holy month of Ramadan, which Muslims celebrate with great pleasure and passion every year.

A month when the doors of heaven are opened, and of the hell closed. A month where all the devils are chained up and only goodness prevails and exists in its refined form.

So this is a very important month for the Muslims where there is legitly magic in the air kind of vibes, and they start feeling close to God and prostrate more at nights and in days. They have a spiritual attachment with this month and feel very much closer to God and their reality.  First of all, I will tell you some characteristics of Ramadan, after which I will tell you guys about the rule book of Ramadan that could be followed in order to extract the maximum blessings out of this Holy month (In the next blog).

Significance of Ramadan Kareem for the Muslims:

What is Ramadan?

The word “Ramadan” comes from the root of the Arabic word for “parched thirst” and “sun-baked ground.” Ramadan is by definition a time of sacrifice, where Muslims fast during the daylight hours all month, abstaining from all food and drink and other such practices. It’s a time to purify the soul, refocus attention on what’s important, and practice self-discipline. Unlike many other holidays, where people indulge, Ramadan is a time to show restraint.

Why do Muslims fast?

During the month of Ramadan, as a Muslim person deals with hunger and thirst while fasting, he or she is reminded of the daily suffering of those who are less fortunate and can further appreciate his or her blessings. Muslims use this time to reflect on their lives and how they can cultivate healthy habits throughout the rest of the year, and do away with any bad habits.

Ramadan is also a time for increased charitable giving and participating in family and community gatherings to strengthen bonds. Aid organizations, charities, and mosques often offer free meals to the public during non-fasting hours.

For Muslims, Ramadan fasting is not solely physical but involves emotional and spiritual aspects as well. Even if you aren’t observing Ramadan yourself, the month of Ramadan might be a good time to think about those less fortunate and have gratitude for the blessings you have in your life. 

What do Muslims do in Ramadan?

1 — SIGHTING THE NEW MOON OF THE LUNAR MONTH

Muslims sight the new moon with much eager and compassion when it comes to the Holy month of Ramadan Kareem. They climb up their roofs and search for the moon with a particular supplication, that they believe will lead to a prosperous month ahead.

2 — MUSLIMS WAKE UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT TO EAT

The morning meal before sunrise is called Suhoor. I’ve learned over the years that there are three types of people when it comes to having Suhoor:

1. those that eat breakfast items (usually some cereal)
2. those that have a full-on dinner, and
3. those that just sleep right through the opportunity to eat.

Many families that don’t have time to eat breakfast together throughout the year gather around the table as early as 4:30 to 5:00 a.m. to share a meal and get ready for their fast for the day.

3 — EVERY YEAR, THE MONTH OF RAMADAN FALLS ON DIFFERENT DATES

The lunar calendar is used to determine the exact start and end dates of Ramadan each year. Every year, Ramadan starts a few days earlier than the year before. This also affects the length of the fast and will mean a lot shorter fasts when Ramadan falls in the winter months.

4 — BYE-BYE TO THE LAZINESS, WORSHIP MORE TO EARN MAXIMUM POINTS:

Muslims recite the Holy Quran as much as they can and along with their regular prayers, they offer extra prayers to get the maximum blessings of God by pleasing him. The best part is that their sleep is also counted in worship. 

5 — NOT ALL MUSLIMS HAVE TO FAST DURING RAMADAN

Children and those that are ill, elderly or pregnant are exempt from fasting. Instead, they either make up the fasts at a later time or donate a meal per day they miss to those less fortunate. Children sometimes partake in mock half-day fasts and join in on the delicious meals. Ramadan is a time for spiritual reflection and isn’t meant to inflict hardship on those unable to fast. Muslims will often tell you that they look forward to this time of year; in fact, children can’t wait until they can join in on the fasting fun!

6 — THE DOORS OF HEAVEN ARE OPENED, AND THE DOORS OF HELL ARE CLOSED

Prophet Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah, peace, and blessings be upon him, once said: “When the month of Ramadan begins, the gates of the heaven are opened; the gates of Hell-fire are closed, and the devils are chained.” (Sahih Bukhari 1800) 

Ramadan, the month of fasting is no different than any other month as far as crimes are concerned. Sins and crime continue to take place in this month all around the world. Does this hadith mean the deviations in this month would not count? Does it mean that every sin in this month would be forgiven or does it mean that people cannot commit sin in this month?

I believe this hadith explains some key concepts of Ramadan in an allegorical manner. If we consider the language as symbolic, the hadith offers a logical and viable rationale for developing a strong conviction and appreciation of the Prophetic wisdom.

We can infer from the opening of the gates of heavens to mean that God makes our journey to the heavenly state of utmost peace and happiness effortless and accessible under His divine grace in the month of Ramadan. During this month believers have a month-long opportunity to change their lifestyle and environment to attain a higher state of self-consciousness. Such a journey would help them enjoy every moment of the month and qualify for uninterrupted mercy and blessings of the Divine in this life and the hereafter.

Closing the gates of heavens means that the Creator is eager and ready to forgive every sin committed by anyone if sincere repentance is sought. The month invites us to self-evaluation and identifying weaknesses in character followed by actions to better ourselves. In other words, forgiveness is the divine offering for this month. However, one must realize that repentance and forgiveness have to be done in a manner that is genuine. It means a person is conscious of wrong actions and is willing to change the lifestyle and never to repeat it. God says in the Quran:

 “Except those who repent, make amends, and declare the truth. I will certainly accept their repentance: I am the Ever Relenting, the Most Merciful. 2:160

Chaining the devils means that God makes it easier in this month for people to control their behavior in the wake of all temptations, physical, social and spiritual. In a moment of high self-consciousness, an individual would ensure that he or she does not commit any act that would either defy the divine or reject his mercy. In other words, each believing person has to have a personal battle with one’s own ego, the biggest satanic whisper that sits in the sub-consciousness of each one of us.

Thus this month provides opportunities to earn the boundless bounties, limitless forgiveness and reigning one’s own ego. The more intense a person becomes in seeking these goals, the more beneficial the month becomes to him or her. 

7 — FASTS ARE OPENED WITH DATES

At the exact moment of sunset, dates are the traditional choice to open the fast, followed by a spread of foods that often varies by culture. This meal is called Iftar. While some plain Medjool dates are perfectly fine on most days, those hosting Iftar parties may want to get creative with the presentation of their dates, which features a luscious mixture of mascarpone cheese and whipping cream. 

8 — GRAND IFTAARS

Muslims break their fast by a magnificent Iftaar (the event of breaking the fast) which includes a wide range of food items, and sherbets (drinks) to quench their thirst and fulfill their all-day long hunger. Iftaar is considered to be the worldly present for them from God, while the bigger one will be given on the day of judgment.

9 — STREETS, HOMES, AND MOSQUES ARE DECORATED WITH LANTERNS AND BUNTINGS

Muslims decorate their streets and mosques with sparkling rainbow buntings and glittering lanterns that cast magic in the night. They do it as a gesture of welcome and affection for this Holy Month and to celebrate the happiness that God is distributing among them.

10 — HOME DECORATIONS IN RAMADAN

People decorate their homes with various sparkling decorations, lamps, lights, lanterns, candles, and buntings just like Christians decorate their fore places, walls, and homes with Christmas trees and stockings.

11 — THE MONTH OF RAMADAN CONCLUDES WITH A CELEBRATION CALLED EID

After 30 days of fasting, Muslims from around the world celebrate Eid. The day starts off with morning prayers and the celebration continues with friends, family and lots of food. Traditional foods vary by culture on Eid, but usually always include a delectable dessert.

Islam is a peaceful religion that teaches us love, tolerance, patience, and unity but sadly due to some filthy humans who are disguising themselves as one, its reputation is being stained. I know and wish that more and more people might come to get aware of this fact and respect every religion just like theirs. No religion teaches hatred, oppression, jobbery, superiority, and radicalism. Religions are all about love, and so we are!

Peace and love,

xoxo.

Hiya beautiful fam!

So as I am on my winter vacations, I am the current cook, maid and the dishwasher of my house. So in short, vacations dont seem like one 😁

Anyways, I was looking forward to some creativity and artwork but there was no specific plan in my mind regarding what to do. So I opened up the book that I’ve started; What Light by Jay Asher, meanwhile my mum called me into the kitchen, at that time, the idea of bookmarks hit me so hard in the creativity chamber of my mind. As the clock struck 6 in the evening, I put out all my paints and stuff and started off with color diffusion technique. It was fun and despite my first try, the finished products turned out to be better than I expected. I was so excited to share them with you guys, so yeah. Have a look yall! 😍

Make sure to try to make them at home this winters because there bookmarks are customized as per your own desire ans creativity. 🌼

Adios xx

Did you ever feel contented and relaxed after de-cluttering your room and changing its setting in a specific way? Do you feel the difference between the atmosphere and your mood in different rooms of your home?

Today we are going to discover why. The ancient Chinese technique for Feng Shui encourages us to adjust our homes and make more joyful, more effective lives, room by room. We frequently direct our concentration toward the room, the asylum where we can rest and energize. Having the best possible Feng Shui in the room can help your sentimental life and additionally your capacity to rest and to feel in charge. You need to know how to keep the chi streaming, and how to divert any negative vitality that may go into your room – and your life. In the event that you need to know how to Feng Shui your room, let’s start 🙂

1. Get a bed with hard headboard:

As per feng shui standards, Cho suggests picking a tough headboard, ideally a wooden one, without any bars or openings on it. “The headboard keeps you associated with your partner and settles you in bed. Not having a headboard influences your relationship to feel more temporary,” Cho says. Also, in case you’re single, a solid headboard can help pull in a solid and secure relationship, defenders accept.

2. Get a full or queen size bed:

Recollect your twin bed or futon in school. Would regardless you need to rest in it? We didn’t think so. Cho says getting a full or ruler measure bed is perfect for feng shui on the grounds that it encourages a peaceful night of rest and gives chi a chance to circle legitimately underneath it. It likewise makes a feeling of fellowship amongst you and your partner. By examination, twin beds can feel choked and ephemeral, while extra large beds can be excessively open, making it impossible to advance closeness. In addition, going larger than usual regularly implies split box springs under the sleeping cushion, which can make disharmony, also cause issues with your back, Cho says.

3. Keep underneath your bed mess-free:

You probably won’t understand it, however, the vitality from the things you store underneath your bed can exchange to you, Cho says. That is the reason feng shui specialists exhort getting out the clutter so that the vitality can circulate around you while you’re resting. “On the off chance that those things have or speak to dynamic vitality, similar to shoes, books or an activity tangle, you can assimilate it on an intuitive level.” If you totally need to store things there, Cho prescribes constraining them to delicate things, similar to bed sheets, materials, and cushions.

4. Appreciate mirror arrangement:

Diverse schools of feng shui have restricting perspectives on mirrors in the room, however, Cho says having round or oval mirrors really symbolize progression in a relationship and assists with the stream of chi in the room. Numerous feng shui specialists prompt against having a mirror straightforwardly before your bed since it might cause treachery in a relationship, and it may likewise be bumping to see your appearance on the off chance that you wake up amidst the night. Rather, you can position a full-length reflect far from your bed, with the goal that you can see an impression of the entryway and who are entering. Or then again, stash that mirror within your storage room entryway.

5. Adorn with relaxing hues:

Earth tones, for example, blue, green and darker, are best for the room, Cho says. What’s more, this is upheld by the National Sleep Foundation, as well. At the point when your ganglion cells — the receptors in the retina of your eyes — get the shading blue, your circulatory strain and heart rate back off, which help set you up for rest.

“These hues enable you to relax and are calming to the eyes. Dynamic hues like red and brilliant pink can empower you excessively,” Cho says. On the off chance that you like those shades have a go at including contacts of peach, coral, burgundy or purple in your sheets, cushions or drapes (as opposed to sprinkled over each of the four dividers).

6. Avoid too many electronics in your room:

You got it. Gadgets, similar to a TV, workstation, and cell phone are a room no-no in light of the fact that they can delay — or disturb — rest. On the off chance that you utilize your telephone as your wake up timer, keep it five to 10 feet from your bed so you need to get up to stop it. Along these lines, you’re additionally not enticed for a late-night look on Instagram or Facebook. Blameworthy? “Before you think about purchasing a repetitive sound, I would attempt to expel the same number of hardware from your room,” Cho says. As per Cho and other feng shui specialists, hardware discharge electromagnetic vitality, regardless of whether they’re not being utilized, so it’s best to keep them out of the room. You may likewise need to have a go at streaming to these yoga postures to help set up your body for bed.

7. Rejuvenate your space with plants and incense oils:

While diverse schools of feng shui don’t generally concede to having plants in the room, Cho accepts they’re extraordinary for rest. “Snake plants assimilate carbon dioxide and discharge oxygen around evening time. I additionally like brilliant fathers and orchids,” Cho says. The green shade of plants can be alleviating to the eyes and help place you in a decent inclination.

What’s more, when you get up toward the beginning of the day, seeing a lively plant can help invigorate you, she includes. You can likewise take a stab at playing up your feeling of smell. Some of the time, a fragrance is all you have to move vitality in a room from focused and tension-ridden to quiet and gathered. A 2012 survey led by the National Sleep Foundation found that individuals are more eager to go to bed on sheets with a crisp aroma. That is the reason Cho and numerous other feng shui specialists additionally prescribe getting a diffuser with fundamental oils. “Orange and lavender oils are incredible for relaxation and sound sleep,” Cho says.

8. Have dim lighting:

For the best Feng Shui, you ought to stay away from brilliant, flashy lights, or roof lights over your bed. Rather, have work area lights with delicate light, and endeavor to get as much characteristic light as you can from the window. This will influence you to feel more tranquil and quiet than cruel lights that are too splendid. You can easily get fairy lights at a cheaper rate to let the magic happen 🙂

9. Avoid photos of relatives or friends “watching you.“

You can have a few key family photos in your bedroom, but avoid a clutter of photos of people everywhere, or you will feel like you’re being watched and will get overwhelmed. The same goes for religious figures. Instead, use inspiring art for rejuvenation.

Be aware of the position of the windows:

 If you can, try to avoid placing your bed between the window and a door, or you’ll be in the middle of the “draught” of chi running between these two places. If you can’t avoid it, just make sure you have nice, pleasant curtains to block some of the bad energy. You should also avoid sleeping facing the window if you can, or your sleep won’t be as restful.

Cited source: www.wikihow.com/Feng-Shui-Your-Bedroom.

Heya! You all are the potpourri of my website who makes all of my posts fragrant with their comments 🙂 Do try these ideas whenever you feel like depression, anxiety, lack of concentration, insomnia, dullness, and discomfort as they really work! 

Adios xx

There are stars inside you that makes you beautiful with what you have and who you are. Re discover your own stars rather than stealing others’s.

This is survival of the fittest. No matter how good a moment seems to be, we are going to be ungrateful for the things we have got and cry over the things that could have been done. We all have got our own charm and potentials and it is absolutely okay if anybody is better than you in any aspect of life. Maybe he can’t do what you are capable of doing. Discover your charm and reflect the shine and spark!

Let me tell you a story, Samantha was a gorgeous lady who lived a lavish life with her handsome husband. She had everything we can ever dream of. She used to go shopping with her friends and did many world tours throughout her life. One day she bought brand new Bugatti Chiron that worth $ 2.7 million. Later that night she opened up her Instagram account and saw her friend Louis’s story in which he was flashing his Limited Edition Bugatti Veyron by Masonry Vivere worth $3.4 million. Samantha threw her phone on the bed and said in anger “People are never going to let me live peacefully.”

Samantha bought flight tickets for vacations in Maldives Island but when she saw Eleanore’s story about her bachelor’s party in Dubai, this stressed-out Samantha even more. She canceled the plan of visiting the Maldives and booked a flight to Dubai instead. Samantha bought a box of chocolate worth $500 as a gift for Eleanore while Diana brought a lavish bottle of red wine worth $1000. This made everyone’s jaw dropped. Samantha drank the whole night in despair and anger until she had a mouthful of vomit at the end. Samantha became a depression patient and died out of high alcohol dosage one night in her luxury residence at the beach.

This is not about Samantha, we all are Samantha in one way or another. In this article, I am going to discuss some evil traits that destroy our internal beauty and the stars we possess one by one without we even knowing it.

Envy and Jealousy steal your stars:

Envy and jealousy are two major factors that lead us to the destruction of our happiness and satisfaction stars. These emotions lead us to frustration and hypocrisy. Jealousy is when you are fiercely protective and possessive about your own belongings while envy is getting aroused by someone else’s possession. Them both makes us ugly as we care less about our success and happiness while dwelling more about others. We are less ourselves and more others. Your originality ends where envy and jealousy starts. These both connotations are very evil and we should try as much as possible to stay away from them. Envy and jealousy lead us to crime, thoughts of defaming and harming the other person.

Everyone is beautiful in his and her own way. I don’t have to be YOU in order to be perfect. I am supposed to be me because if I were to be you, God would have never created me who I am in the first place.

Many reported cases show that jealousy and envy had lead to more crime and murders in teens. Either it is upon youth, physique, intelligence, relationships, wealth, health, beauty or EX, below are some crime reports that represent the true devastation of human lives out of envy and jealousy.

Envy:

1. In one of the most disturbing murder cases ever, now infamous Gertrude Baniszewski, alongside her teenage children, viciously tortured and murdered 16-year-old Sylvia Liken in 1965. Liken and her sister was placed under Baniszewski’s care by their parents, who worked in a carnival, for several months.

During this time, Baniszewski repeatedly “punished” Sylvia Liken for prostitution and pregnancy, though she was actually a virgin while delivering bizarre sermons about the filthiness of women. She encouraged her children to torture Liken as well, including pushing her down the stairs and making her eat human faeces until Liken finally died of brain haemorrhage and shock.

Baniszewski later claimed she was on drugs the entire time, but it’s been theorized she was jealous of Liken’s beauty and youth, while Baniszewski herself had been marred by many troubled relationships in her past. She was let out on parole after just twenty years in prison. (source: https://www.ranker.com/list/jealous-killers/elle-tharp)

Jealousy:

2. When 60-year-old business woman Sadie Hartley got back together with her old boyfriend Ian Johnston, she had no idea the jealous rivalry she ignited. Sarah Williams, 35, had slept with Johnston while he was single and seemingly became obsessed. The pair continued to communicate through occasional sexting once he was back together with Hartley.

But Williams saw one roadblock, and that roadblock was Hartley. So she enlisted her longtime friend, Katrina “Kitt” Walsh, to plan the perfect murder. The two women spent a year plotting up ways to kill Hartley, which Walsh documented meticulously in her diary. In January 2016, after enacting a “dry run” of the crime with a fake flower delivery, Williams entered Hartley’s home, used a stun gun on her, and stabbed her to death. Despite all their planning, the two were apprehended not long afterwards, and both were found guilty of murder. (source: https://www.ranker.com/list/jealous-killers/elle-tharp)

How well do you remember the first fight with your beloved cousins over your boyfriend or girlfriend? Yes, we all cherish our childhood with our cousins and friends whereas, a single person appears out of nowhere and suddenly steals your heart. You become so possessive about him that even a word against him is a matter of life and death for you. Remember! a true love makes you feel free rather than caging you in the shackles of insecurities, doubts, and confusions. Jealousy is an indicator that either you don’t trust your partner or your partner is not worth to be trusted. In both the cases, you are living a life of dishonesty with yourself and with your partner. It could be well explained by this saying:

The person who is meant to be yours will never give up on you and if that person leaves, he had never been yours 🙂

Live a life of freedom and love wildly! Love is free of bounds and constraints. Love is for everyone and no matter how hard you might try, you can never stop anyone from loving anyone. Love is blind and deaf. Envy is as if you are trying to copy Donald Trump while you yourself look like Rihanna. You are you! Own yourself and your belongings and love yourself more than anyone else could ever do. If you would not make your worth, nobody is gonna recognize your value.

Stop Imitating and comparing yourself:

Everything in this world is not meant to be yours. You will not get everything you wish for. Your dream might be a nightmare for someone else. This is what makes us unique and different from each other.

Back in 2017, I tried to copy a beautiful hairstyle of Zooey Deschanel. I cut down some bangs and thought that I would transform into a beautiful diva 😀 Whereas, I ended up looking like an absolute jerk! So I took this weird picture down below in the honor of my stupid most decision. 😀 It’s good to TRY and LEARN new things but the craving and passion for transforming yourself completely or trying and be someone else are useless as well as painful. I destroyed my hair and still, I can’t style my hair because of them rotten bangs I once dreamed of having. Even if I would have gone to a saloon for this haircut, let me mention you here that my hair texture does not support bangs at all. 🙁

See, everything is not meant to be yours and you have your own style and look. Own that and rock it! If I am Zarbakht, I have to make my own style and identity rather than to start writing my blogs as Angeline Jolie to get more followers 😀

Now, what should I do? Shall I start crying the hell out of me because I can never look like Zoee? Shall I get myself bald just because my hair is useless and I can’t ever have them sexy bangs? No, instead I made my own style, I keep my flicks long now and hair curled up as they naturally are. And I guess people like them the way they are because at times people ask me “how do you manage to curl your hair every morning?” Ha-ha, I think I look much better this way.

Now I am going to show you some people who tried to transform themselves into famous celebrities through plastic surgeries and laser treatments. They ended up ruining their pretty faces even after going through pain and trouble.

I feel pity for her, just look at her before and after transformation. She was such a cutie but she didn’t own her identity and lost her originality as well.

Look at this diva, Shauna Sand is yet another plastic surgery obsessed quasi-celebrity who is famous for all the wrong reasons. She transformed herself into some celebrity and ended up looking like this. To be honest, I envy how beautiful she used to be before. Just Kidding! But she was really very pretty before. Wasn’t she? 

There are many more such cases in which people ruined their faces and lost their originality in order to look like some other person. See, we might not like ourselves the way we are, but somewhere, someone is also copying us because we can’t often see the real stars we have inside us that others can clearly see. Just find your own beauty and enhance it. Rather than losing your identity. This is mere envy and one should keep away from it. You are beautiful just the way you are 🙂

Just because you’re not thin does not mean you’re ugly. You are beautiful because of the light you carry inside you. You are beautiful because you say you are, and you hold yourself that way.

-Mary Lambert

Back in 2017, when I was very vigorous with changing my looks, Auburn hair dye was very trending then. I bought a pack for me and dyed my hair Auburn. Thinking that this colour is going to suit me a lot and my skin tone will go exactly with it, I forgot to bleach my already jet black hair. Well, when I washed my hair, my mother and sister criticized me a lot. They said that I am giving a straight outta gutter look and also, you look like a filthy beggar who had never washed his hair since forever. This was terrible! 😀 But I coped up with all the harsh comments and was very confident about that horrible look of mine. 😀 See, I had no choice than to accept my fault and learn from it. So I embraced that very look as my punishment. And trust me, it doesn’t make any difference. It doesn’t make any difference either my hair was black or brown. People didn’t notice at all because it was just a minor brown shade that my black hair picked up from that loaded bag of hair dye. I was happy because I knew that this color is going to fade away eventually so it’s not a biggie. But think about those girls who changed their looks permanently. It is true that with envy comes greater problems.

Stop hunting for more and more and own your stars:

We see a lot of fresh faces entering our media and with an interval of time, we see a sudden maturity on their once a cute face. Maturity is good if developed with time. These actresses turn themselves into mature ladies and when they actually get mature, they start undergoing surgeries to look younger and fresh. This is just like a hunt. You start with fish and a time comes when you aren’t satisfied with the number of lions you hunt every day.

There is no room for a complainer in a universe of law, and worry is soul-suicide. By your very attitude of mind you are strengthening the chains which bind you, and are drawing about you the darkness by which you are enveloped, Alter your outlook upon life, and your outward life will alter.

Build yourself up in the faith and knowledge, and make yourself worthy of better surroundings and wider opportunities. Be sure, first of all, that you are making the best of what you have.

Do not delude yourself into supposing that you can step into greater advantages whilst overlooking smaller ones, for if you could, the advantage would be impermanent and you would quickly fall back again in order to learn the lesson which you had neglected.

-James Allen

James Allen, a British philosophical writer explained it beautifully that you cannot ask for more and more until and unless you excel and master in what you already have and what you already possess. Love yourself and own your possessions, only then, nature will grant you this right to have more and better. If we aren’t happy with what we are today, trust me tomorrow can never earn us satisfaction and content because people who are greedy for more have no tomorrow and no best. Be thankful for what you have and love yourself whilst struggling for the betterment of your future. History had witnessed many Kings and Queens who tried to get more while they already had more than enough, they always ended up with bloodshed and brutality.

As the child at school must master one standard before passing onto the next, so, before you can have that greater good which you so desire, must you faithfully employ that which you already possess.

The parable of the talents is a beautiful story illustrative of this truth, for does it not plainly show that if we misuse, neglect, or degrade that which we possess, be it ever so mean and insignificant, even that little will be taken from us, for, by our conduct we show that we are unworthy of it.

Perhaps you are living in a small cottage, and are surrounded by unhealthy and vicious influences.

You desire a larger and more sanitary residence. Then you must fit yourself for such a residence by first of all making your cottage as far as possible a little paradise.

Keep it spotlessly clean. Make it look as pretty and sweet as your limited means will allow. Cook your plain food with all care, and arrange your humble table as tastefully as you possibly can.

If you cannot afford a carpet, let your rooms be carpeted with smiles and welcomes, fastened down with the nails of kind words driven in with the hammer of patience. Such a carpet will not fade in the sun, and constant use will never wear it away.

By so ennobling your present surroundings you will rise above them, and above the need of them, and at the right time you will pass on into the better house and surroundings which have all along been waiting for you, and which you have fitted yourself to occupy.

Perhaps you desire more time for thought and effort, and feel that your hours of labor are too hard and long. Then see to it that you are utilizing to the fullest possible extent what little spare time you have.

It is useless to desire more time, if you are already wasting what little you have; for you would only grow more indolent and indifferent.

-James Allen

Let’s find the stars inside us:

You know there are stars inside you and every time you look at yourself and smile with content and thankfulness that you have a sound face, healthy body and a brilliant mind, you give birth to a shining star inside your soul. When you compliment random people on the way to school about how fresh they look and how beautiful they are, another star is born with flying colors. Many children are born with disabilities or mental disorders. My own brother died a day after his birth when doctors claimed that if he somehow manages to survive, he will be a special child. He might be mentally retarded or deaf. My brother died right after a day because he wasn’t able to make it into this world. Doctors also warned my mother that she might not be able to have a normal baby ever again. My mother was devastated but she never gave up. Our willpower and optimism beat the weak obstinacies of life. My mother gave birth to me and later after, she had four more beautiful daughters. We have a perfect family and all the credit goes to my mother. She could have gone into the depression upon this news of not having a normal baby again. She could have given up on trying due to this fear of losing another beautiful baby. It wasn’t easy for her but she did it! Just because she never gave up, she was able to raise us well and good. We never had the slightest hint of any dismay or depression from her side which resulted in a happy family we have today. If we imagine a vice-versa situation, we would be having a depressed mother who fights on and off with our dad thus leading into a terrible atmosphere of our home. Our decisions not only affect ourselves but also the ones we love. We all are beautiful with shining stars of good moral values, uniqueness, happiness, strength and originality within us. Don’t let those sparkling stars fade away into the dark holes of envy, jealousy, imitation, comparisons, torturing yourself with useless predictions, self-shaming, and pessimism. Own yourself and let those stars reflect the inner light of yourself. Remember yourself as a kid; your purity and innocence.

We have long forgotten the stars inside us into the dusty racks of our artificial beliefs and sky-high set of expectations, perfectionism, and fierce obsessions. Stop with what you are trying to be and find who you are. Rediscover the magic you possess and let the cauldron of your true-self, your original identity and self-esteem bubble and bubble and bubble!

Here, I found a relatable song as well. Happy reading sugar cakes and don’t forget to love yourself. You are beautiful just the way you are. Just keep this in mind, there are stars inside us. Don’t waste your divinity!